The Compromise
Sometimes, you want to bring sexual play into a more gentle, sensual, and romantic space, and the Compromise (Lotus) sex position is perfect for just that.
With this position, you can experience slow and sensual sex, maximum body contact, hot kisses, and tender embraces. Both men and women love Lotus position for these reasons.
- The bottom partner sits cross-legged. First, have one partner sit cross-legged on the bed, the floor, or a comfortable chair. For the most traditional lotus position, this should be the penetrative partner—whether that means they have a penis, are using a dildo or their fingers, or simply want to be the one on the bottom, anchoring the couple.
- The top partner sits in their lap. Once the bottom partner is in place, the top partner sits in their lap, straddling them face-to-face and chest-to-chest. The top partner then wraps their arms and legs around their partner as if they’re giving a full-body hug.
- The top partner rocks their hips back and forth. After both partners are in position, add movement to enhance stimulation. For the most traditional lotus position, the top partner will do most of the moving, rocking their hips back and forth (rather than bouncing) for a slow, steady sensation. You can perform this move with penetration or non-penetrative stimulation of both partners’ genitals; for less friction, apply lube around each other’s genitals, hips, and legs to facilitate a more effortless, gliding motion.
Sex Position Variations
If you can’t quite get into the lotus position or you’re looking for a way to modify it for your preference, there are many lotus variations you and your partner can try:
1. Straight-legged: You don’t need limber legs or hip flexor muscles to do the lotus position. You and your partner can modify the position, so you don’t have to wrap yourself around one another completely. Instead, have one partner keep their legs straight or slightly bent behind each other while they straddle, which will allow you to enjoy the face-to-face intimacy that the lotus position offers.
2. The man leans back slightly, and the woman places her feet on his shoulders. This does provide deeper penetration.
3. Extend both of your legs out and continue to keep contact with the upper body.
